Seven Tips Guaranteed to Make Your House Clean

If you are anything like me, then you find it hard to function when your home feels dirty. I have a hard time doing anything fun or even sleeping when there is clutter. This unfortunate quirk has forced me into several habits that help me keep my house clean all of the time (or at least the majority of the time) so that I can focus on something less boring.

Decide Which Areas in Your House Bother You the Most

The number one area in my house that bugs me, is the kitchen. If my table is covered in stuff (which happens incredibly quickly) or my floor has gone a day too long without sweeping, I have a hard time thinking. The kitchen is followed closely by my bedroom, the front room, and the family room. I have found that when these areas are clean, my whole house feels clean.  So, I pick a handful of rooms that I can control and put my primary focus and effort there.

On the flip side, I have given up trying to bring order to my husbands work areas and surfaces. I shut the door to the office, laundry room, and garage and pretend they aren’t there. He has a different way of working/organizing. To me, it looks like a mess, but it works for him. So yeah, I trick myself into believing I have a clean house.

This tip is hard because it asks you to accept the fact that you don’t have control over the whole house. The more people you live with, the less clean your house is going to be (simply because everyone’s definition of clean is different).  Accept that, and you are halfway to a clean house, more freedom, and less restricted happiness.

Don’t Collect Junk

This tip seems easy but it definitely takes conscious effort. When L was little, I found myself at the store a lot just to be somewhere that wasn’t home. While I was at the store, I would buy stuff. Stuff I did not need and sometimes even want.

It is one hundred percent easier to keep a  clean house when you are not filling it with purposeless stuff. So, buy deliberately, with a clear purpose in mind. Ask yourself why you are buying something, what and how often you are going to use it, and where that thing is going to live when it is not in use. If you can’t come up with convincing answers to these questions, don’t buy it.

On the same note, getting rid of the junk you already have makes your house cleaner and less cluttered.

Have A Place for Everything

If your item passes the, “is it junk?” test, from above, then make sure it has a home or definitive place within your house where it belongs. We live in a small house and I organize a lot. So, the “homes” of my objects change from time to time but everything always has a place where it goes. The idea that everything has its own spot, should make it easy to put away.

Put Things Away Instead of Just Down

Like I said earlier, my kitchen table collects everyone’s stuff like that’s its job. By the end of a busy day, it can have everything from half eaten food to shoes on it. Yeah … shoes. Unfortunately, the table is the junk drawer of the house. This, to me, is unacceptable because you know we eat there and… I need the kitchen clean to think properly.

This tip, when implemented by everyone in the house literally keeps the house clean. Put dishes in the dishwasher when you are done, put clothing in the laundry basket after you take it off, put the toys away when you move onto a new activity. . . If everyone puts their stuff away in its predesignated place when they finish using it or enter the house, then the table or floor or counter does not become a dumping spot and clutter disappears.

Admittedly, there are only three people in my house right now and of the two of us who understand this concept, only one of us implements it. However, I still think it is a habit to strive for. Even though I am the only one who does it, it still keeps my house drastically cleaner than it would be if I didn’t do it.

Have a Quick Morning Task List

Each morning, I spend 10-15 minutes on my quick cleans. These are things that keep my house tidy and running with minimal effort (because mornings are hard).  I should also note that if I manage to do these items before my baby wakes up they take hardly any time. If I wait until he is awake to “help me” they take a good hour.

The first thing I do is make my bed (2 minutes). This makes it far less likely that I will have a nap during the day and it immediately makes my bedroom feel clean. The second thing I do is collect the laundry from the day before and sort it in my laundry room. If I have a full load ready, I start it and set my phone timer to remind me it is going (2-5 minutes). The third thing I do is make sure the dishwasher is empty and the dishes from the night before are put away so that my counters are clear (2-5 minutes).

Doing those three tasks each morning makes it so that my house feels clean, I have a place to put dishes other than the counter for the rest of the day, and guarantees we will have clean clothes.

Do a Nightly Walk Through/Task List

On the flip side of the day, I spend another 15-30 minutes making sure my house is ready for the morning (nights are not as hard as mornings). After I put my baby to bed, I fold and put away any laundry I did during the day (5-10 minutes). Then I check the dishes situation: load or unload the dishwasher, wash big pans and bottles, and clean off kitchen surfaces (5-10 minutes). Finally, I walk through my key rooms and pick loose items up. We don’t have a whole lot of extra stuff so this is pretty easy and usually consists of putting away things my one-year-old moved or played with throughout the day.

Set Aside a Specific Time or Day Each Week to do General Cleaning

This is the only task on the list that takes a large chunk of time. All of the other tasks make my house feel clean throughout the week with minimal time and effort. This task helps me to keep a legitimately clean house.

I set aside each Monday (because weekends are messy) to put my house back together and do a slightly deeper cleaning. Monday is the day for bathroom cleaning, dusting, vacuuming, and mopping. It is also the day I encourage my baby to help and show him how to clean. I know he is little but I want him to grow up knowing how to clean, that a clean house is attainable, and that it’s normal for boys to clean.

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Dating “Green Lights” for Marriage Success

 

It is a good thing that a marriage success isn’t based on the ideas of an eleven-year-old. When I was about that age I wrote a list of all the characteristics I wanted my future spouse to possess. It was a nice introspective activity but my well thought out, rather extensive list of requirements was neither realistic or attainable. Holding any real person (especially a teenage boy who I watched grow up) to a list of standards that I myself was far from, would have been a sure-fire way to end up alone.

I have known my husband for over half of my life and I’m only 27. Our love story is a bit unusual for being a real story but it definitely isn’t unheard of.  We met, and I use the term loosely, on the first day of seventh grade. We were in band class together, I know romantic. I noticed him from across the room because he was being an obnoxious 12-year-old boy.

Anyhow, I was acquainted with him for a year. Casual friends with him for the next four. Seriously dating him for the following two. Not dating him at all for the two after that (he was on a mission, I didn’t wait). Then married to him.

Later this year (2017), we will have our sixth anniversary. So lately, I have been thinking about all the of the reasons that I chose him, even though he did not fit the cookie cutter dream boy I came up with as an eleven-year-old. I dated other people, but there were things about him that I just didn’t find in other men. . .

After some thought, I have decided that people are just not perfect and we all come with our own issues. Therefore, I don’t think a comprehensive list of standards is the answer to finding lasting love. However, I think there are many variables that can make all of the difference in a relationship and in both partners individual lives. I’m no expert, but I am very happily married.

That being said, the following items are my retrospective list of “green lights”  to look for in both a potential spouse and yourself.  Find someone who . . .

Makes You A Priority in Their Life

Even when we were dating, I always knew I was number one. My husband went out of his way to help me, and spend time with me, and talk to me. He used to ride the train to my dorm to help me carry my laundry home. I knew I was important.

You want someone who makes you feel loved and significant. Not someone who will make time for you if their favorite tv show gets canceled or if their best pal is busy. Conversely, you want to feel the same way about them. If you still prefer someone or something else to your significant other, there might be a problem.

Shows You Respect

In my experience, marriage works best if it is a partnership. My husband has always listened to what I have to say. He is willing to discuss anything with me and make compromises. Neither of us is always right, we listen, consider, and take turns.

You want to be with someone who respects you as a thinking individual and who values your input, not someone who wants to control every aspect of the relationship. If you find that either you or your partner is “in charge”, then something is probably off. Neither person should have all the power or hold all of the cards. Marriage is a two-way street and each person should have a healthy respect for the other.

Makes Trust Easy

One of the things I have always loved about my husband is that I have never had to worry about him. I know he is with me and he wouldn’t do anything to mess that up. We have a very open communication system. We both know where and how our money is used, we know each other’s daily schedules, we know who we spend our time with. We don’t keep secrets. We don’t do drama. This makes trusting each other easy and natural. It also makes jealousy a non-issue in our marriage.

Find someone you can openly communicate with and who makes you feel secure in the relationship. As a side-note, jealousy should not be used as a tool within healthy relationships. I would say if you or your significant other are using jealousy to manipulate then you have some things that need to be better discussed.

Makes You A Better Person

This one is tricky. I don’t think it is safe or fair to go into a relationship with the intent to change the other person. However, if you find yourself with someone who makes you want to be better I think that is a win.

For example, my husband is always encouraging me to try new things or follow my dreams or meet my goals. He supports me when I try to better myself or health, he helps me learn new skills, he studies the scriptures with me and tries to help me find time to develop my interests and talents. He does not tell me what to do or how to do it. He does not try to micromanage my schedule or the people I see. He just helps me by constantly encouraging my best habits and I try to do the same for him.

Is Secure Enough to Allow You To Be Yourself

This kind of goes with the last one. My husband has never asked me to give up friends or hobbies or family members. He has always let me be who I am. There are some bad habits I have given up but that is because he has been a good influence on me not because he insisted I do it. (I don’t think habits are what make you who you are anyway.)

If you find yourself in a relationship where you are constantly changing and making personality sacrifices and giving up things that you love while your partner remains unchanged . . . then there is clearly some unbalance. You want to find someone who is secure enough with himself and his relationship with you to let you be you.

I’m not saying that people don’t  or shouldn’t change after they are married. Change is healthy and expected. I’m saying that if you are with someone who expects you to change everything about yourself to fit their agenda then he or she may not be the person you want to end up with. Relationships require balance and give and take and complimentary personalities. Relationships should not be two people who think and act identically because one person wills it to be that way and the other has given up everything that made them who they were.

Happiness requires balance and give and take and complimentary personalities. Relationships should not be two people who think and act identically because one person wills it to be that way and the other has given up everything that made them who they were.

Puts Your Happiness and Well-Being Before Their Own

In a “me first” selfish world this one sounds novel and a little revolutionary. However, if each person puts the needs of his/her partner before his/her own then both partners needs get met and they develop a stronger love for each other because it’s easy to love those who you serve.

This is a hard, if not impossible, thing to do in a one-sided relationship. If you are giving and giving and meeting someone else’s needs without having your own needs met, burnout is imminent unless you are a saint.

Has Similar Priorities

There a lot of things on my eleven-year-old list that didn’t really matter. I didn’t really need someone who was 6′ 2” or who had big muscles or who could play the piano or speak Italian. However, there were a few things that mattered a lot. As a unit, I think it is important to have similar if not identical overall priorities. What those are, depend on the couple.

In my marriage, we both agree that church, family, education, and financial stability are high priorities. This makes it easy for us to make choices, spend money, and communicate. If my priorities were church, family, and financial stability and his were video games, friends, and going to the gym we would have a difficult time making big family decisions.

I am not saying there is anything wrong with video games, friends, and going to the gym I am just saying that it is important to be on the same page with when it comes to the big stuff.

In Conclusion

I am not a marriage expert. I have only been married for six years. This is not a comprehensive list of things to search for in a spouse. This is just the list I have come up with that details some of the big things that allow me to enjoy a happy, successful marriage. So, if you are wondering if you have found the one, go through the list and see how he stacks up. Then, and this is the important part, see how you stack up.

What have I missed? What are some other “green lights” to look for when neck deep in the dating pool?